triadruid

archway asked, so I'm answering.

Probably the best thing about being part of the Trinity is the geometric growth of benefits. I believe it's easier to us to find X/Y/Z like/want/need in this grouping that it would be in virtually any ordinary pairing. If my other thirds want spicy foods, they know they can find someone who wants that, without badgering the partner (me) who doesn't dig on that sort of thing. featherynscale and I can go watch zombie films, leaving kittenpants to happily do something that doesn't involve brains in such a detailed manner. Somebody has an idea that I think is completely unworkable? They can go work on it together until it's a better idea, or until they've run it into the ground of their own volition. Sometimes I hear about it again, sometimes not... either way, nobody got thwarted or had to look very far for validation or a co-conspirator. This is a fairly big deal, to me at least, because I tried for years to fulfill the "one true destined love" fantasy^*, and mostly just made myself and my partners crazy.

Finances and chores scale to a large degree too, of course (not including kittenpants' tendency to cook for either 1 or the Mongol Horde). But that's more of a side-benefit, even though we probably never would have gotten such a nice house without it (and we actually, almost, have enough room for all of our stuff here).

Sure, there's additional problems of expansion in size; triangulation, communication difficulties, imbalance/jealousy, but they're not as significant (for us) as the easy way in which we became, essentially, "more than the sum of our parts".

* Yes, even while being in love with three different women at once. I don't get it, either...

This sort of solves the "it's illegal" part; there's nothing in the law about being engaged until the law changes, right?

Expect a party closer around November, when our world stops tilting quite so swiftly. And yes, this makes 3/3, 5/5, 7/7, and 9/9 special dates in our household.

• Used up another 6-7 bundles of wood between 5am and noon, raising the house temperature 2°;
  
• Called in to work on account of the above strenuous activity (and feeling like my brain was made of Jello Jigglers);
  
• Raised the temperature 20° from noon to 1pm by the simple expedient of waiting for the furnace repairmen to finish their work and re-engaging the thermostat (the fireplace was still going, which helped);
  
• Read half of Hogfather;
  
• Took kittenpants out for an exciting birthday lunch at Mr. Goodcents;
  
• Planned a much more exciting dinner of crab for said birthday, to be executed later this evening;
  
• Determined the house was not in fact too cold to have sex in if you do it in the right place (i.e. within 4 feet of the fireplace);
  
• Working on a "Soundtrack" for the D&D Amnesia campaign...initial evidence supports the idea that it's "funny as hell" and "wrong". Exxxcellllent...
  

That's about all I've got for now... more later, after kittenpants opens her presents.

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Since featherynscale made reference to it, I should catch everybody up on what's going on with regards to my sex life. To wit, I'm getting a vasectomy done, based partially on the fact that it's (much) cheaper for me to get snipped than it is for our household to continue paying for *2* sets of female birth control hormones. Condoms are cheaper, true, but the main reason is that none of us actually want to have children. I've got 7 siblings, for crissake, several of them young enough to be my kids, if you squint your eyes right. I've also got a godden-daughter, and enough nieces, nephews, and kids-of-friends to keep me satisfied in the "who shall I buy this annoyingly loud toy for" department for the rest of my natural life. :)

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So I'm tentatively scheduled for August 25th in the afternoon, at which point I'll be on strict bedrest for a few days and then recuperating just before DragonCon, as it turns out. And they're giving me Valium. By the way featherynscale, I didn't have to use your "doctor's note", as the forms only have one blank for spousal consent, but you are listed on the "contact sheet", just below kittenpants as "wife", as "girlfriend". So that'll be fun for the intake nurse to figure out...