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Girl Genius for Wednesday, March 18, 2026
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Masochistic Macaque
Mar. 17th, 2026 11:00 amsavagelove_feedA kinky submissive woman’s last relationship went down in flames when her dom insisted on a 24/7, power exchange all-the-damn-time lifestyle. She is raising kids and caring for her sick father. She doesn’t have time for this kind of commitment. How can she set reasonable boundaries in the future? A married man despairs that he’ll … Read More »
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Homework
Mar. 17th, 2026 11:00 amsavagelove_feedI’m a 50-year-old married bisexual American man living in Europe with my wife and kids. The “bi” part of me is still extremely new. Two years ago, I started seeing a sex-positive therapist to address my significant interest (and feelings of guilt about) kink and BDSM. Long story short, I admitted to myself that I … Read More »
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Girl Genius for Monday, March 16, 2026
Mar. 16th, 2026 04:00 amgirlgenius_main_feedThe Girl Genius comic for Monday, March 16, 2026 has been posted.
Performing some traffic maintenance today
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dw_maintenanceHappy Saturday!
I'm going to be doing a little maintenance today. It will likely cause a tiny interruption of service (specifically for www.dreamwidth.org) on the order of 2-3 minutes while some settings propagate. If you're on a journal page, that should still work throughout!
If it doesn't work, the rollback plan is pretty quick, I'm just toggling a setting on how traffic gets to the site. I'll update this post if something goes wrong, but don't anticipate any interruption to be longer than 10 minutes even in a rollback situation.
After Action Report #20
Mar. 13th, 2026 11:00 amsavagelove_feedMeet Trina, who indulged her dom’s desire. Did she love it? Did she hate it? Listen and learn. Did YOU try something new to you, and want us know about it? Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love.
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Girl Genius for Friday, March 13, 2026
Mar. 13th, 2026 04:00 amgirlgenius_main_feedThe Girl Genius comic for Friday, March 13, 2026 has been posted.
Struggle Session: Drunken JO Sesh Ends in Disaster
Mar. 12th, 2026 05:38 pmsavagelove_feedStruggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to a few comments from readers and listeners. I also share a letter and invite readers to have the first crack at giving the advice. I’m away this week — so Tuesday’s column was a repeat and there’s no Struggle Session today. But I’m not slacking: … Read More »
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Magnum Extra: Sex & Television
Mar. 12th, 2026 11:00 amsavagelove_feedDan brings back Matt Baume, author of “Hi Honey, I’m Homo!”- a history of queer characters on sitcoms. They talk about the gratifyingly realistic nature of Ilya and Shane’s relationship, how gay characters in the 70s were usually murderers and engage in a talmudic debate comparing the homo hockey show with Heartstopper.
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Epstein Files Libido Crash
Mar. 10th, 2026 11:00 amsavagelove_feedNaturally, on this sex and relationship podcast, many of you are thinking about the Epstein files. One caller used to be a dom/daddy for younger women who sought him out and enjoyed him. Still he feels guilty. And another caller is having their libido crash when they read the news. Meanwhile a straight man has … Read More »
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Poly Under Duress
Mar. 10th, 2026 11:00 amsavagelove_feedDear Readers: I’m off this week. To tide you over until I’m back, the tech-savvy, at-risk youth pulled some classic “PUD” questions from the archives. A PUD, of course, is someone who is “poly under duress.” Because while some start poly and some achieve poly, others have poly thrust upon ’em. These are their stories. … Read More »
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After Action Report #19
Mar. 6th, 2026 12:00 pmsavagelove_feedVanilla. Straight. Cis. Monogamous. How could this story possibly be sexy? A monogamous couple tried a dual massage in a foreign country. Mirrors on the ceiling. Pillows on the bed. Jacuzzi. Steam room. At first they wondered if they were allowed to have sex. They were. Hear the tale! If you have a story you … Read More »
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Struggle Session: Folly Jamboree!
Mar. 6th, 2026 03:18 amsavagelove_feedStruggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments — just a few — from readers and listeners. I also share a letter that won’t be included in the column and invite my readers take a turn giving advice. I’m hosting the HUMP Film Festival in Seattle this weekend — come see me … Read More »
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A Cure for Cottonmouth?
Mar. 3rd, 2026 12:00 pmsavagelove_feedWhen does subbing morph into self-harm? The relationship between a man and his much younger trans woman lover involves intense physical abuse. The girl has a wretched history, and engages in self harm. Although she gives consent, there’s also a language barrier that makes everything they do seem out of control and destructive. A bisexual … Read More »
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Quickies
Mar. 3rd, 2026 12:00 pmsavagelove_feed1. My boyfriend swears he’s cut. I say he’s totally uncut. He insists he was circumcised as an infant. How do I convince him? Some circumcisions are “tight” (all of the foreskin removed) and others are “loose” (most of the foreskin left intact). The looser the circumcision, the more “uncut” a man’s cock might appear. … Read More »
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Struggle Session: Come See HUMP (And Me!) This Weekend in Seattle!
Feb. 27th, 2026 08:17 pmsavagelove_feedStruggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments — just a few — from readers and listeners. I also share a letter that won’t be included in the column and invite my readers take a turn giving advice. Hey, everybody! HUMP 2026 Spring Program opened last night in Seattle — watch the … Read More »
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After Action Report #18
Feb. 27th, 2026 12:00 pmsavagelove_feedThey designed, engineered and built their own fuck box. Dan’s question: “So did you upholster it?” Hear all about it, how it fit into the sex party and whether they enjoyed it or not. Do YOU have a perverted tale to tell? Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love.
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Sex & Politics #43
Feb. 26th, 2026 12:00 pmsavagelove_feedPeter Rothpletz is hot shit. The commentary writer has appeared in The New York Times, The New Republic, The Hill, MSNBC, and The Guardian. He is the morning newsletter chief for Mehdi Hasan’s Zeteo, and the Senior Writer and Producer for The Don Lemon Show. When Rothpletz first appeared on Sex & Politics in November … Read More »
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Girl Genius for Wednesday, March 11, 2026
Mar. 11th, 2026 04:00 amgirlgenius_main_feedThe Girl Genius comic for Wednesday, March 11, 2026 has been posted.
in which i take a deliberate moment to appreciate art
Mar. 10th, 2026 09:25 pmwwdn_feedI am making a deliberate effort to leave my phone as far away from my attention as I can, whenever I am able. I’m not looking at the news, I’m not scrolling the feeds, I’m not posting. I’m leaving it in my pocket, my car, in the kitchen, just … not in my face.
This fits into my efforts to slow down and be more present. It’s creating space I desperately need to decompress, get bored, let my mind wander and come back with a fun and creative idea.
Today, I was out for a minute and saw this little art installation on a telephone pole. It was weathered quite a bit; it’s been here for awhile. And it was beautiful to me. It was a few moments better spent than they would have been looking at anything on my phone, or anything I could have been listening to. It wasn’t dysregulating, it didn’t increase my internal DEFCON level.
I chose to experience and appreciate this thing that someone made when they were very much not thinking about me, because it was exactly where I needed it to be, exactly when I needed it.
I took some pictures (using only the camera and nothing else on the phone) so I could remember the moment, and share the art. They’re pretty big, so I’m gonna put them behind a jump.
Art is so important, y’all. Make time to experience it. Allow it to inspire, comfort, and challenge you.
I love public art, and I love the artists who create and install it. Please support your local arts community.
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Girl Genius for Monday, March 09, 2026
Mar. 9th, 2026 04:00 amgirlgenius_main_feedThe Girl Genius comic for Monday, March 09, 2026 has been posted.