triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
triadruid ([personal profile] triadruid) wrote2003-11-17 11:48 am
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Posit: Love is subject to qualitative analysis.

We can identify defining characteristics of (romantic) love that distinguish it from other relationships:

  • Attraction

  • Common Interests

  • Trust

  • Compatible Dysfunctions (thanks to [livejournal.com profile] featherynscale for this term)

  • Within a 'Standard Deviation' of each other (thanks go to [livejournal.com profile] azanthia for this one)

I should explain the 'Standard Deviation' concept a bit further; essentially, it means someone who is not so far above you, or so far beneath you, that the difference is going to cause a problem. This can be intellectual difference, social class difference, religion, whatever.. opposites may attract, but similarities build resonance.

If you have some subset of these characteristics, you can have a relationship, even a good one, just not the same one. For instance, Common Interests + Trust + Compatible Dysfunctions + Standard Deviation = Best Friend for Life(?). Common Interests + Trust = Favorite Coworker(?).

And so on. Feel free to poke holes, I just found it interesting and didn't want to forget the midnight philosophy.

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