triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
I'm liking this "post one thing that makes you happy each day for a week" meme. I don't know if I'll end up doing it for a week, 2 days, or 4 months, but today's as good a day to start as any.

Today, I am happy for sappy dreams about meeting/courting [livejournal.com profile] featherynscale, who in the dreamscape was a retail clerk (or some other sweet-young-thing job) at a small shop run by the only African-American businesswoman in 'Mayberry'ville, Iowa, and living in a tiny two-room apartment over the shop. Over the course of the dream, we got engaged (discreetly, it being a small town and possibly set in the actual-mythical 1950's) which pleased her boss to no end, and started looking for a bigger place.

The best part, however? Cut to protect the diabetic... )

Thus endeth the sap.
triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
[livejournal.com profile] archway asked, so I'm answering.

Probably the best thing about being part of the Trinity is the geometric growth of benefits. I believe it's easier to us to find X/Y/Z like/want/need in this grouping that it would be in virtually any ordinary pairing. If my other thirds want spicy foods, they know they can find someone who wants that, without badgering the partner (me) who doesn't dig on that sort of thing. [livejournal.com profile] featherynscale and I can go watch zombie films, leaving [livejournal.com profile] kittenpants to happily do something that doesn't involve brains in such a detailed manner. Somebody has an idea that I think is completely unworkable? They can go work on it together until it's a better idea, or until they've run it into the ground of their own volition. Sometimes I hear about it again, sometimes not... either way, nobody got thwarted or had to look very far for validation or a co-conspirator. This is a fairly big deal, to me at least, because I tried for years to fulfill the "one true destined love" fantasy*, and mostly just made myself and my partners crazy.

Finances and chores scale to a large degree too, of course (not including [livejournal.com profile] kittenpants' tendency to cook for either 1 or the Mongol Horde). But that's more of a side-benefit, even though we probably never would have gotten such a nice house without it (and we actually, almost, have enough room for all of our stuff here).

Sure, there's additional problems of expansion in size; triangulation, communication difficulties, imbalance/jealousy, but they're not as significant (for us) as the easy way in which we became, essentially, "more than the sum of our parts".

* Yes, even while being in love with three different women at once. I don't get it, either...
triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Apollo)
Woke up to a lovely little erotic dream about a former lover this morning... then somethingone tickled the back of my brain, and I panned back on the CD my alarm was playing. "Surely not..."

Yep. Soft Cell's 'Tainted Love' was playing while that was going on. Right, message received... thanks Α. Looks like he's back. At least the Rob Zombie the other day was an upbeat memo...
triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
"Reply to this post, and I will list three things I love about you. Maybe more than three. Then repost to your own journal and spread the love."

Answers on this from others have been werry interestink...
triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
Picked up our engagement rings yesterday, which was surprisingly drama-free* and quick, despite the blistering heat. Pictures soon to follow, as soon as we can get [livejournal.com profile] kittenpants's hands paint-free long enough to take them (so - maybe October?). :D Montanari also mentioned that [livejournal.com profile] zerself and [livejournal.com profile] closer_to_fine came in on our referral, and were excited for them as well!

Got some housework done last night, which is sort of a change (I've been in-screw non-essential duties mode for waaaay too long, and having [livejournal.com profile] dramaticaddict as our maid hasn't assisted my resolve), and then curled up in bed with a cup of chamomile tea and Terry Pratchett. Long about 10:20 I felt sleepy, so I opted to actually go to bed at a humane hour. Maybe I'm getting the hang of this relaxation thing...

Of course, for my troubles I got weird dreams. Where did my brain eat that? )

* Neither ring shop gave us a hassle about two women picking up wedding bands, or the other one picking up matching bands when they knew two of us were married already. Montanari has been incredibly cool the entire time (as always), and Vinca only was snotty to us when [livejournal.com profile] featherynscale and I went in in our "street clothes" to check on the status of the rings, and the owner/manager/gentleman behind the counter wouldn't even get up and check on it for us.
triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)


This sort of solves the "it's illegal" part; there's nothing in the law about being engaged until the law changes, right?

Expect a party closer around November, when our world stops tilting quite so swiftly. And yes, this makes 3/3, 5/5, 7/7, and 9/9 special dates in our household.
triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
Well-liked. Well-established. You are The Loverboy. Loverboys thrive in committed, steady relationships--as opposed to, say, Playboys, who want sex without too much attachment.

You've had many relationships and nearly all of them have been successful. You're a nice guy, you know the ropes, and even if you can be a little hasty with decisions, most girls think of you as a total catch. Your hastiness comes off as spontaneity most of the time anyhow, making you especially popular in your circle of friends, too.

You know not to make the typical Loverboy mistake of choosing someone who appreciates your good humor and popularity, but who offers nothing in return. You belong with someone outgoing, independent, and creative. Otherwise, you'll get bored. And then instead of surprising her with flowers or a practical joke, you'll surprise her by leaving.

FACT: You embody the German principle of Konstantzusammenschaft, which is best described in English (without using the obscure English word "sammenschaft") as "eternal togethermanship".

YOUR EXACT OPPOSITE: The Billy Goat (Deliberate Brutal Sex Dreamer)

ALWAYS AVOID: The Nymph

CONSIDER: The Window Shopper, The Peach

triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
Stolen from damn near everyone...

Reply to this post, and I'll tell you one of a lot of reason[s] why I like/love/adore you. Then put this in your own journal, and spread the love.
triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
You scored as Edmund Dantes. You are Edmund Dantes, the Count of Monte Cristo. Somewhere in your past you have been wronged, and your desire for revenge is dangerously high. Your love life is intense and passionate, but fraught with past tragedies.

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Edmund Dantes

75%

Aramis

70%

D'Artagnan

65%

Athos

60%

Richelieu

55%

Porthos

50%

Mercedes

45%

Rochefort

35%

Which Dumas character are you?
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Okay, so maybe it's more accurate than it seems at first blush....
triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
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2. Pass it on.
read on )
triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
Forgive my gushing, but there's a 5am revelation just dying to get out:

Being in love means, in part, that the thing that could previously have led you around by the ring through your nose no longer holds the same fascination for you. When you realize that the one-note burst of passion doesn't bear any real comparison to the kaleidoscope of color and wonder involved in a single kiss with someone you love.

I am so damn lucky for what I have. That is all.
triadruid: Apollo and the Raven, c. 480 BC , Pistoxenus Painter  (Default)
We can identify defining characteristics of (romantic) love that distinguish it from other relationships:

  • Attraction

  • Common Interests

  • Trust

  • Compatible Dysfunctions (thanks to [livejournal.com profile] featherynscale for this term)

  • Within a 'Standard Deviation' of each other (thanks go to [livejournal.com profile] azanthia for this one)

I should explain the 'Standard Deviation' concept a bit further; essentially, it means someone who is not so far above you, or so far beneath you, that the difference is going to cause a problem. This can be intellectual difference, social class difference, religion, whatever.. opposites may attract, but similarities build resonance.

If you have some subset of these characteristics, you can have a relationship, even a good one, just not the same one. For instance, Common Interests + Trust + Compatible Dysfunctions + Standard Deviation = Best Friend for Life(?). Common Interests + Trust = Favorite Coworker(?).

And so on. Feel free to poke holes, I just found it interesting and didn't want to forget the midnight philosophy.

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